Tuesday, December 29, 2015

Christmas time in our New HOME!

We have been in our new house for 2 weeks now, and it feels like home.  It's not super familiar yet, so we still lose things, or trip over stairs, but it's really starting to come together.  It was especially nice this year, to celebrate Christmas here.  We even found time to get a tree up.  It made it really feel special. 
 



 Christmas eve day we went to Winterfest at the Seattle Center.  We got to see a huge train display that was so neat.  There was even a train with Santa on it.  We saw lots of snowmen (though we had no snow) and even watched the kids on the ice rink.  Next year we will take her ice skating, but this year she really enjoyed watching. We did too.  It was pretty hilarious to see all the people skating who have no idea what they are doing.
 
We went to church in the evening and Anora was SOO good.  She even clapped and sang at the end with Mrs. Michelle :)  After church we came home and unwrapped matching PJs!   They all had moose on them.  Anora got a moose stuffed animal and the If you give a moose a muffin book.  She was so excited. 


 Two of Anora's prized gifts: the Little People house & car from Gammy & grandpa and the kitchen set from Santa Claus!

Christmas morning we ate Monkey bread while opening our gifts from family and Santa.  Anora could barely find time to shove a piece of bread in her mouth between gifts.

That night we took a walk around the neighborhood to see Christmas lights.  We stopped by the Porth's house and Anora liked playing with the kids and seeing all the new toys.  It was such a great day. 

But wouldn't you know it, the binkie fairy came the day after Christmas and swooped away all Anora's binkies.  We were expecting choas, tantrums, and lots of tears, but Anora has taken it all astonishingly well.  She asks for it periodically, but gets over it quickly.  She even sleeps just fine without it.  What a relief for mama and papa!  Our Anora is such a big girl.

Wednesday, December 9, 2015

Potty time

Update!  Anora went pee pee on the potty for the first time last night!  We were all so excited jumping and cheering.  Anora loved that she got an treat (one M&M) for it too and it may motivate her to do more peeing on the potty!  Here's to no more diapers.

In other news we just bought a house, we get the keys tomorrow. 
We literally cannot wait to get in that house!  Last night we signed all the paperwork....here we go.  Homeowners round two!




We have had a wonderful and busy few months.  Anora dressed up as a fairy princess on Halloween and loved the treats and other kids in costume.  We went to a Halloween gathering with our PEPs friends to see all the cuties in costume.

We had a lovely visit from G-pa and G-ma in November.  They spoiled Anora and she loved it!  She also learned how to say TV when they were hear and showed off her spectacular pronunciation of "Sea-hawks!".  Ben's parents really helped us seal the deal on the new house too.  It was so wonderfully having them stay with us.

Over Thanksgiving, we did our annual roadtrip down to Utah to visit the Schauers family.  I love catching up and eating with the Schauers clan.  They sure do know how to cook!  I really enjoyed watching the cousins play together.  Anora said "Lexi, are you?" "Amy, are you?" and "Baby Archer" for days after we returned.  She missed Aaron and Ava too, but those names are harder for her to say.

While in Utah I got to visit the doTERRA headquarters which was so exciting for me since I am soooo into the essential oils now.  I loaded up on supplies when I was out there and readied myself for my second doTERRA class that I held when I returned.


We stopped by to see Santa one night, but Anora wasn't having it...so we have a picture of her crying and Santa saying, "I'm not even touching you."  Hahaha!  Ava decided she didn't like Santa either and started crying for their picture too!  Gotta love the toddlers :)

Hope you all have a very merry Christmas!

Tuesday, October 13, 2015

Anora's fav song

In case you missed it, here is Anora dancing to her favorite jam - Whip Nae Nae by Silento.  She prefers the video with the little girls dancing so she can copy the moves.



Tuesday, September 29, 2015

Another year at the orchard

Year Seven!  Our family loves to apple pick.  We've been doing it every year since we've moved out to Seattle.  It's so fun to get in the fall spirit and drink some cocoa and go pick apples.  Anora loves apples, so I thought she'd really get into it this year.  But as things go with willful toddlers, she was having a melt down when we were picking apples, so she was mostly not interested.  She did enjoy the petting zoo (goats, kittens, and hens, oh my!) and seeing the ducks race!  Quack quack!  She also liked the pumpkin patch and picked out two little white ones for her and Eleanor to paint this week.


Plus I have to add this little video I took the other day of Anora saying some of her words.


Wednesday, September 9, 2015

A year and 1/2 already (18 months)!

Anora just flipped over the calendar on 18 months last week.  I have been saying she's about 1.5 years old for several weeks now, but it's finally official!  She is definitely a toddler and has really started to become her own lady in the last month.  Her vocabulary is exploding, and she communicates what she wants.  She is very good at saying, "no" or "no no no" while shaking her head. Some of her other favorite words are "shoes" to indicate she wants to go outside ("side"), "nose", "eye", "woof woof", "meow", "mama" or any variation "mom" "mommy" etc, "papa", "off", "down", "truck", "Julie" (her nanny), and "weeeeee" on swings.  Her little voice and pronunciation kills me every time.   Her first phrase was "papa's shoes".  She likes to try walking around the house in mama and papa's shoes.  She loves to play and will even go into her playroom and have a tea party on her own sometimes.  But she never wants to play alone when I'm making dinner.  That's when she wants to be "up".  Up on me, on the counters, and getting into everything! Her favorite is using the pepper grinder.

She has discovered some of her own dance moves which involve jumping and flapping her arms up and down. It's hilarious to watch, check out this video here.

She laughs a lot and is learning how to play games like peek-a-boo.  She still loves playing in and with water.  I guess that's the Pieces in her.  She is becoming a better eater, but still can be easily distracted by people, games, or toys.  Her favorite foods are OLIVES, frozen yogurt tubes, grapes, and quesadillas dipped in guacamole. and egg sandwiches.  She also really likes chocolate chip cookies because we made the mistake of giving her one at the state fair.  Now she whines for cookies when she sees them.

Here are the stats on our little peanut:
Height: 2'7.26" / 79.4 cm (28%)
Weight: 20 lbs / 9.072 kg (14.5%)
Head Circumference: 45 cm / 17.72" (17%)

Wednesday, August 19, 2015

A tribute to Great grandpa Glen

Sadly, our dear great-grandpa Egan passed away on August 8th, 2015.  He was 94 years old.  We regret that he only got to meet his great-grand daughter Anora once in person, but he saw her several times via skype.  He loved seeing her on skype and would always give her big smiles, and touch the screen.  The three of us traveled back to Madison, WI last weekend for the wake (8/13) and funeral (8/14).  Though the circumstances were less than ideal, we were really happy to get some time with family.  Anora did really well traveling and we were all exhausted upon our return.  The sign of a well enjoyed trip.  We are going to miss Glen, but keep him in our hearts and minds.  We know he is happy in heaven and can rest peacefully. 







Monday, August 3, 2015

Vegetarians – Totally!



I spent my teen years and into my 20’s as a non-meat eater.  Starting that young was a statement I was making about what was important to me.  It also helped that I simply did not care for meat.  Along with cutting out cow’s milk, I also decided in 7th grade to cut out meat completely. At the time, eating out as a vegetarian was more difficult.  There was typically one menu item to select without meat, and often just a salad.  But overall it didn’t bother me much.  As time went on, I grew up and eventually went to college.  I remained a non-meat eater until I moved to Spain.  Spain was the turning point. 
            In Spain, I did a home stay and lived with a family who cooked for me.  Their diet revolved around some type of meat as a staple in every meal.  To be polite I began eating small bits of meat.  Soon it became habit to eat meat again.  I got loose on my conviction and ten years later I found myself eating meat in nearly every meal!  Yikes!  It happened so gradually and I simply hadn’t been paying attention to how much meat I was consuming.  I also was pregnant in there and craved red meat so much! 
            Then, this last March, a book I had been meaning to read years ago caught my attention.  The book is called, The Food Revolution, by John Robbins.  It details the many reasons why a diet that includes meat is not a healthy one for our bodies or our earth.  It was just the wake-up call I needed to go back to what I know and love and re-connect with more veggies! 
            It was an easy transition for me.  I don’t miss meat and luckily, Ben is totally open to eating the meat-free meals I cook for us.  In fact he has liked all but one of the many things I’ve tried :)  He even mentioned he feels less bloated and cramped up. Hurray!  I’m sure some of you reading this are thinking…”I could never go without meat!” but I think it’s worth the experiment.  Cut back to eating meat in one meal a day, then one meal a week, then not at all for a whole week.  See how you feel at the end of that week.  It may just be the experiment you need to see that you can do it and feel great!  Plus it inspires some creativity in the foods you prepare.  It’s always fun to try new things – even if there are some flops :)

There are a multitude of reasons to at least reduce the amount of meat you consume.  Here are some of the facts that spoke to me.

  1. Meat is a leading contributor to heart disease and cancer.
  2. Raising cattle requires enormous amounts of water when there is a shortage of clean drinking water.
  3. Raising cattle emits CO2 that contributes to greenhouse gases that pollute the earth.
  4. The way animals are raised and slaughtered in the US is un-sanitary.  Raw chicken is one of the biggest risks in our households today. 
  5. Raising cattle requires the use of so much land that could be used to produce vegetables and help feed the hungry.
  6. Not having to cook raw meat!  I hate touching raw meat.

There are a multitude of reasons to stop eating meat. John Robbins wrote another book called, Diet for a New America.  In it he gives the following arguments about why humans should not consume meat: The Hunger Argument, The Environmental Argument, The Cancer Argument, The Cholesterol Argument, The Natural Resources Argument, The Antibiotic Argument, The Pesticide Argument, and The Ethical Argument. I copied them and put them below to read.  With the overwhelming evidence supporting a non-meat diet, it’s incredible that our policy makers are still advocating for meat and dairy products in our homes and schools.  It is literally killing us. Change is hard. It always is.  Especially when it means eliminating something you may really enjoy (and especially when the meat and dairy industries line your pockets when you’re a lawmaker).  But instead of letting your appetite cloud your vision, I think it’s time to take a closer look…

The Hunger Argument
Number of people worldwide who will die as a result of malnutrition this year: 20 million
Number of people who could be adequately fed using land freed if Americans reduced their intake of meat by 10%: 100 million
Percentage of corn grown in the U.S. eaten by people: 20
Percentage of corn grown in the U.S. eaten by livestock: 80
Percentage of oats grown in the U.S. eaten by livestock: 95
Pounds of potatoes that can be grown on an acre: 40,000
Pounds of beef produced on an acre: 250
Percentage of U.S. farmland devoted to beef production: 56


The Environmental Argument
Cause of global warming: greenhouse effect
Primary cause of greenhouse effect: carbon dioxide emissions from fossil fuels
Fossil fuels needed to produce meat-centered diet vs. a meat-free diet: 3 times more
Percentage of U.S. topsoil lost to date: 75
Percentage of U.S. topsoil loss directly related to livestock raising: 85
Number of acres of U.S. forest cleared for cropland to produce meat-centered diet: 260 million
Amount of meat imported to U.S. annually from Central and South America: 300,000,000 pounds
Percentage of Central American children under the age of five who are undernourished: 75
Area of tropical rainforest consumed in every quarter-pound of rainforest beef: 55 square feet
Current rate of species extinction due to destruction of tropical rainforests for meat grazing and other uses: 1,000 per year
The Cancer Argument
Increased risk of breast cancer for women who eat meat daily compared to less than once a week: 3.8 times
For women who eat eggs daily compared to once a week: 2.8 times
For women who eat butter and cheese 2-4 times a week: 3.25 times
Increased risk of fatal ovarian cancer for women who eat eggs 3 or more times a week vs. less than once a week: 3 times
Increased risk of fatal prostate cancer for men who consume meat, cheese, eggs and milk daily vs. sparingly or not at all: 3.6 times.

The Cholesterol Argument
Number of U.S. medical schools: 125
Number requiring a course in nutrition: 30
Nutrition training received by average U.S. physician during four years in medical school: 2.5 hours
Most common cause of death in the U.S.: heart attack
How frequently a heart attack kills in the U.S.: every 45 seconds
Average U.S. man's risk of death from heart attack: 50 percent
Risk of average U.S. man who eats no meat: 15 percent
Risk of average U.S. man who eats no meat, dairy or eggs: 4 percent
Amount you reduce risk of heart attack if you reduce consumption of meat, dairy and eggs by 10 percent: 9 percent
Amount you reduce risk of heart attack if you reduce consumption by 50 percent: 45 percent
Amount you reduce risk if you eliminate meat, dairy and eggs from your diet: 90 percent
Average cholesterol level of people eating meat-centered-diet: 210 mg/dl
Chance of dying from heart disease if you are male and your blood cholesterol level is 210 mg/dl: greater than 50 percent

The Natural Resources Argument
User of more than half of all water used for all purposes in the U.S.: livestock production
Amount of water used in production of the average cow: sufficient to float a destroyer
Gallons of water needed to produce a pound of wheat: 25
Gallons of water needed to produce a pound of California beef: 5,000
Years the world's known oil reserves would last if every human ate a meat-centered diet: 13
Years they would last if human beings no longer ate meat: 260
Calories of fossil fuel expended to get 1 calorie of protein from beef: 78
To get 1 calorie of protein from soybeans: 2
Percentage of all raw materials (base products of farming, forestry and mining, including fossil fuels) consumed by U.S. that is devoted to the production of livestock: 33
Percentage of all raw materials consumed by the U.S. needed to produce a complete vegetarian diet: 2
The Antibiotic Argument
Percentage of U.S. antibiotics fed to livestock: 55
Percentage of staphylococci infections resistant to penicillin in 1960: 13
Percentage resistant in 1988: 91
Response of European Economic Community to routine feeding of antibiotics to livestock: ban
Response of U.S. meat and pharmaceutical industries to routine feeding of antibiotics to livestock: full and complete support

The Pesticide Argument
Common belief: U.S. Department of Agriculture protects our health through meat inspection
Reality: fewer than 1 out of every 250,000 slaughtered animals is tested for toxic chemical residues
Percentage of U.S. mother's milk containing significant levels of DDT: 99
Percentage of U.S. vegetarian mother's milk containing significant levels of DDT: 8
Contamination of breast milk, due to chlorinated hydrocarbon pesticides in animal products, found in meat-eating mothers vs. non-meat eating mothers: 35 times higher
Amount of Dieldrin ingested by the average breast-fed American infant: 9 times the permissible level

The Ethical Argument
Number of animals killed for meat per hour in the U.S.: 660,000
Occupation with highest turnover rate in U.S.: slaughterhouse worker
Occupation with highest rate of on-the-job-injury in U.S.: slaughterhouse worker


The Survival Argument
Athlete to win Ironman Triathlon more than twice: Dave Scott (6 time winner)
Food choice of Dave Scott: Vegetarian
Largest meat eater that ever lived: Tyrannosaurus Rex (Where is he today?)



Tuesday, July 14, 2015

Emotional Intelligence (EQ)



I have the great privilege of facilitating the Summer EQ MBA class at Seattle University this month.  It is something I did a lot of in years past, but this was my first class after having Anora.  The role I have is similar to an adjunct professor, but the official title is “Courtesy Affiliate” because I’m not getting paid.  It’s a service I provide because I really believe in the class and the skills it offers.  It also gives me a great opportunity to work on my leadership skills and stay connected to the university.  I really value this opportunity and love getting to hone my skills as a facilitator and work with the students. 

Ben and I took this class in Italy way back in 2011.  I am so glad we took it together.  It has given us tools we consistently use as a couple navigating conflict and supporting each other.  Additionally, he understands why this work is so important to me. 

SO what is it?!

EQ encompasses many skills.  It is categorized into four main quadrants: Self-awareness, Social awareness, Self-management and Relationship management.  We start by learning about empathy and the way it connects us all.  We all have emotions and can understand what mad, sad, glad, and afraid feel like.  When we use these words it helps us speak to our unassailable truth – the impact of words on us, and our emotions.  Sometimes we get caught up in explanations of WHY.  Why did we end up in this position?  Why do we think we are worried about it? Why, why, why?!  The explanation can dilute the feeling and the message.  It also is a way to avoid feeling the way we feel because we don’t want to feel afraid, or sad.  But in order to move past it, we must move through it and truly feel the emotions. 

We also teach about active listening – parroting, paraphrasing, and paraphrasing plus.  It helps you hear what someone is telling you, and help the person say things that are sometimes hard to say.  Listening and empathy are so important to helping a person feel heard and understood. 

Here is a great video from Brene Brown on empathy.


Later, the students share autobiographies with each other.  It’s a transformative experience that helps them see people as multi-dimensional rather than just “things in our way” or “a point of resistance”. It’s a great reminder that we all have a story, and we all have reasons for putting up our masks. 

Masks
 With the falling of the leaves, the masks of green are stripped off the hillsides
With the falling of the leaves, the masks of green are stripped off the hillsides, revealing the diversity and uniqueness of each ridge and valley, rock and stream, old shed or oil well hitherto unseen.  It is in the winter, when the hills bare their innermost selves, that we get to know them.  Then, in the spring, when the masks return, we can look at the hills as old friends few others understand.
So it is with  people.  Most of  the time we  wear our  masks.  But  during the difficult times, during  the  winters  of  our  lives, we shed  our  facades and reveal   all the  intricacies of the unique beings  we are.  It is in these moments that friendships are formed, and we experience one another as few others ever will.
John W. Walker


The rest of the class is mainly spent practicing these skills in what we call T-group. It gives people the opportunity to practice being present and transparent.  They get feedback on how they are showing up in a group, and get time to think about how they can be more intentional when entering a space. 

This passage from the Velveteen Rabbit sums up the experience and the work the best.

“What is REAL?” asked the Rabbit one day . . “Does it happen all at once . . . or bit by bit?”
“It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse.  “You become.  It takes a long time.  That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept.  Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby.  But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.
Margery Williams
The Velveteen Rabbit

I love being in that space with the students and love getting the chance to be in the moment/present.  It is also exhausting!  Coming off from the weekend retreat I feel drained but I am so lucky to come home into the loving embrace of Ben & Anora.